Update on a disturbing new phenomenon

This is an update on "A disturbing phenomenon"

I know a lady in Australia who almost has it all.

She is a sound and competent professional. She is a very good person -more than fulfilling her family responsibilities.

She 'donates' to disasters around the world.

But what is most interesting is that she ignores people close to her who are in trouble and are in just as much need as disaster victims.

She is not the only one I know who does this. I know several people like her. They are almost a post - modern 'type'.

It is a disturbing phenomenon:


She enjoys good health; a big house; a big garden; financial security; a job she likes doing; job security; time with her children; even time with her grandchildren; She has a vibrant social life.

What more could she want?



The only thing she doesn't have is a partner-someone to share it all with.

This drives her to distraction. It haunts her . She pursues and stalks potential partners and tries to enslave them. The more she pursues them-the further they run from her.


Nothing original about what I’m going to say –it is biblical in its simplicity: she wants it all. She doesn't realise that everything you get in life has to be paid for with something else. You can't have everything. If she were prepared to trade off even one of the things on the above list of blessings -she might get the partner and be happy.



But no, she won't trade off anything.


So she's lonely and unhappy.


And her loneliness makes her angry and very manipulative.


And her potential suitors keep running like hell from her.


The media constantly tell us that we can have it all if we only we have this or that, or do this or that.

Not only can we have it all-we deserve it all!

Such arrogance and greed.

It is a major difference between people in the the 'Developed' world and people in 'Developing' countries.

In developing countries people don't expect to have it all.

That is why they are not so angry.

They don't want everything.

She is unhappy and I know the reason -she doesn''t.

But of course I can't tell her-she would take it very badly indeed.

Some people who know me also probably know why I am unhappy -but they won't tell me either -because they think I might take it badly.

That is what Writing and Art is for-to tell us what is wrong with us in a way which is acceptable to us.


Some people tell me I'm judgemental.

But that is what writers do -you can't write without being judgemental - it is what we do.